A letter-writer struggles to connect with a daughter-in-law over her 'very different tastes.'
I just saw on Facebook that she has gotten a new tattoo that, to my eye, is ugly and badly done. What do I say when I see her next, and how do I handle this problem in general of not really liking the new tattoo, new dress, new whatever?You say nothing about the tattoo, that’s easy — unless she asks, in which case you turn it into a question. “I’d love to hear the story behind it,” in my experience, is a welcome entry point, because people care enough about whatever it is to make it permanent.
Worth mentioning, too, I hope, from the perspective of a highly opinionated person: Tastes aren’t fixed quantities. People I love have always gone through phases of loving things I hated — something we’re all guilty of inflicting on others. You know that song or show or team you put on repeat for months? No one was ever within earshot? Yeah. Our choices are to go slowly mad, sound-quarantine ourselves from any offenders for months or find something to like about the game/music genre/show/sport.
So although your friend is still very much alive — tempting you to believe reconciliation is possible — I think it would help you to treat this like a death. Lost friendship is a legitimate and significant source of grief. Let yourself grieve. Acknowledge your feelings for what they are, and give them room to play out. If rites or ceremonies have been meaningful at other milestones in your life, then plan one now.
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